Monday, July 27, 2009

NOTES OF LOVE

This is an email I received from a friend. She wanted us to know things may not be perfect or even good all the time, but we can get through anything if we (or I) just keep a few things in mind.


Hey Allison, first let me say that I am very happy for you and Zeke and wish you a life time of Happiness! I have been married to my husband for 5 yrs in November, together for 8 and I LOVE HIM SO MUCH!!!! Just because we love each other so much, does not mean we have not had our bad days but thanks to God, those bad days are outweighed by our all of our good days!!!!! My husband and I have made a spoken vow to each other, that no matter what happens in our marriage (outside of abuse), we are committed to each other. One piece of advice that I can give you that will save you half of your arguments is DON'T TRY TO CHANGE HIM AND EXCEPT HIM FOR WHAT AND HOW HE IS. If you ask him to take out the trash. (Now you know he's gonna do it eventually, when he's ready).You come downstairs 4 hrs later, the trash is still there. Don't get mad at him, don't get an attitude (although you really want too because after all, you did tell him to do something) let it go. He'll get to it. That is one fight you don't have to have. Also, its true what they say about communication. Talk to each other. Talk about the things that are not right and the problems your having but talk when things are good. Ask about each other's day and genuinely mean it. When you're going through a rough time, and trust me you will, reflect on the time you first met. Think about how you felt when you met him and think about all the memories you've made when visiting all of the wonderful places you've traveled together. When you reflect back to the beginning and those memories put a smile on your face, then girl you better fight for your marriage!!! Love still resides in your heart. If you didn't love him, then those memories wouldn't make you smile. As long as your committed to each other and keep all outside influences out of your relationship, you'll make it!!!!!
If you have any advice to add please email me I will post it.